Jennifer Lopez recounts the details of her marriage to Ben Affleck

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Jennifer Lopez decided to give her fans an intimate look at her second marriage to Ben Affleck and he did so through his newsletter On The Jloin which he revealed some curiosities of the day and an intimate look at his emotions.

Jennifer Lopez, the wedding revelations

“This is heaven. Right here. Here we are now. ”This is one of the phrases that Ben Affleck he delivered in his speech on the wedding day. A phrase from a film directed by him, Live By Night and which, according to Jennifer Lopez, was perfect for the wedding. In the newsletter, the singer and actress explained that, despite some difficulties and concerns, such as the constant presence of rain during the days before the wedding, she never lived moments of anxiety. “The truth is, I’ve never had a doubt. All week I felt the calm and the certainty of being in God’s hands ”.

Jennifer Lopez, the song and the children

“Ben and I had talked about True Companion by Marc Cohn as the perfect love song for the wedding, in this same house more than twenty years ago, ”revealed the singer in the newsletter. “Even though Ben didn’t know it, I asked Marc to surprise him by singing it at our wedding and it was lovely and generous to come. As I walked down the hall, the first song he played wasn’t True Companion, but The Things We’ve Handed Down, a passage on the wonderful mystery of children, the perfect choice since our five children preceded me during the walk. The twenty years between those dreams of youth and the adult world of love and family that we embraced that day led to this marriage more than any of us could ever have imagined. We weren’t just getting married; we were marrying these children in a new family ”confided Lopez. The actress later explained that when her husband saw her appear at the top of her stairs, accompanied by the song True Companion, he thought he was dreaming and wished that dream would never end. “I would have had the same thought of her if I hadn’t focused so hard not to trip over my dress – joked Jennifer Lopez – but when I got close enough to see her face, it made the same wonderful sense to me.”

Jennifer Lopez, the right age to get married

“Ben and me we laughed the night before we get married, thinking about our age. We’d both been married before and we’re not exactly kids anymore, but somehow now it felt like the only age that made sense. I had recently read something that Rainer Marie Rilke had written in Letters to a young poet about love. You said you have to be ready for love. Being able to love someone so that you want them to be better and make them happy, because giving happiness and love becomes more joyful than receiving them, is true sublime adult love. In fact, Rilke believed that love had to be learned and that the learning time was long ”. The artist then continued: “Uniting and surrendering requires wisdom, self-awareness and is nearly impossible in the heat ofyouthful impatience“. Lopez then explained that for her and Ben this was the perfect timing to become husband and wife, because they had matured enough to understand. what are the important things never to be taken for granted and what stupid things to let go. “We are in that much desired time in life: to have gratitude for all that life has shown us, even its trials and tribulations. That night was truly heaven ”.